Systemic therapy in practice
Finding solutions for when relationships start to break down, so that individuals learn to trust and understand one another again, and can talk to each other and reconnect.
When things go wrong in a relationship, it is mostly caused by:
- not feeling understood
- getting caught up in reproaches and
- accusations again and again
- which leads to a sense of insecurity
- and keeping quiet
- because you’re convinced that you are not being heard
Changing or breaking patterns of behaviour is very hard because our behaviour (and how we react to each other) is driven by emotions. You are shaped by your upbringing and experiences. So when you fall in love, things get off to a flying start, but there may come a time when irritation and friction occurs, and that might be expressed in silent reproaches or heated arguments. If you wait too long before doing something about this, there’s a great risk of drifting apart – doing less together while increasingly making separate decisions.
Relationship therapy isn’t easy, because it will also teach you to have a good look at yourself, your partner and each other, and to be honest and critical, saying what you do and don’t want, so that the way you react to each other in future is based on a sense of love and connection. Having and feeling that connection builds and strengthens trust in each other and in yourself.
Relationship therapy gives you better insight into:
- what triggers you
- your baggage from the
- how that affects you &
how you react in your relationship.
This gives you a better understanding of yourself, and of how to listen to each other with a sense of love, commitment and connection, so that you can talk about what you do and don’t want.
Finding new ways to communicate and treat each other better. A safe space where parents, brothers and sisters feel free to say what they feel and share their thoughts to create a sense of connection.
I am a qualified MDFT therapist. Multidimensional Family Therapy is a very effective approach for focusing on a family.
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As a systemic psychotherapist, I can offer young people and adults help with solving problems in (personal or work) relationships, aiming for calm, stability and trust.
During an open and honest first consultation, we will find out whether we ‘click’. If that isn’t the case, I will try to help you find another therapist who might suit you better.
A type of systemic psychotherapy I am specialised in is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). I am also qualified in Multidimensional Family Therapy (MDFT), Signs of Safety, and the trauma treatment Narrative Exposure Therapy (NET).
In a calm manner and pleasant surroundings, I can offer…
- A great deal of experience, as an all-rounder
- A non-judgemental approach
- A good listener
- Analytical collaboration, Focus & Problem-solving